Unrequited love is when your love for someone is not returned. It is a terrible feeling, and one that makes going through every day feeling lost, and depressed. Logic however, makes things simpler. Oh, only if our hearts were logical. Logic will tell us that there is no future in loving a person that doesn't love you. I mean, why would you want someone that didn't want you?
However, there are millions of people who have deeply loved someone, and that person did not feel the same way about you. Unrequited love starts when we are very young and we call it puppy love.
Unrequited love hurts us so much at such a young age, but we will find as we get older, the hurt of love doesn't get any easier. It doesn't make sense does it? You love someone so much, and why they don't love you back doesn't make sense, does it? Such is life.
These are age old questions. Unrequited love is heart breaking. Some of us come from different worlds and just happen to meet. We find each other attractive, usually fall in lust first, and then in love. But if one person is raised one way and the other another way, they will have different takes on life. These are the differences that start to separate us.
We are all different. They can find each other attractive, but their make up, their differences, will not mesh with each other. You feel the love so strong, and you think that it is enough because you are blinded by the love you feel. But it's not enough. It never will be. That is what unrequited love is. One person loving the other, without it being returned.
Healing from unrequited love is a time thing. I'm sorry. I wish there was a pill that you could take that could make you forget, but there isn't. But I heard that they are testing one in Europe that erases recent memory for people involved in trauma cases. Maybe if it works, it will be used for the trauma of this kind of heartache.
Time really does heal all wounds for the most part. How much time? Well, it really comes down to this. The longer it takes, the more you were truly in love. If you get over it in a month or two and you are already dating, then it probably wasn't love anyway.
Don't call the person as you will become just another heart broken pain in the butt. Leave the person with nice thoughts of you. Don't go where you know the person might be just to accidentally on purpose run into them. The only person it will hurt is going to be you. The more you know, the more you will be hurt. Unrequited love can make you look like a jerk, or even a stalker.
Joel Osteen said "In life we go through seasons. Recognize it's over, be grateful for the time you spent together, and press forward." Sounds easy, doesn't it? But for many, unrequited love will take a lot of time and healing.
Getting over unrequited love is likely to take every bit of strength you have, and then some. Your pain will be relentless. And knowing that a person who looked into your eyes told you how much they loved you, now is the person that kicked you to the curb. They go on with their lives happily while you hurt like you never hurt before, and can't believe they have done this to you. I am so sorry!
Don't put a date on stopping the mourning your loss of unrequited love. Just take it one moment at a time. When you are healed, you will know. You may never heal completely because when a person means that much to you, it tends to stay with you forever, just like puppy love. But heal my friend. Unrequited love is very hard to endure and let go of as, love remembers.
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